Last week I had the pleasure of hosting an amazing woman who was willing to teach me everything she knows about essential oils in exchange for a place to sleep for a couple of nights.
It’s funny when you know someone online only and when your relationship is strictly ‘business’ and you really don’t know anything personal about each other. Before she came she was completely unaware that I am the mother of 4 unschooling children, that I am breastfeeding a toddler and that we live in a 2 bedroom bungalow.
Not only that, but the day she arrived (after a 6 hour drive) my 23-month-old son became very sick with a fever and vomiting after every time he nursed.
Yup, my sink was stacked with dishes, I hadn’t vacuumed the living room or changed the sheets on her bed, I hadn’t cooked supper and my fridge was pretty much empty.
And you know what? I didn’t panic. In the past, my control-freak-desperate-need-to-impress-others personality would have had me running around trying to tend to my sick babe while being super-duper-housemaker-hero. Instead, I relaxed into accepting what my day had in store and into realizing that I could not control another person’s perception of what was going on at my house.
When my friend called from the road I let her know that my son was sick and she advised me which essential oils to begin to treat him with. And of course when she arrived she was totally unflappable, jumped in to help me and praised me for sitting on the couch with my sick little boy while he nursed and slept.
What a relief! But even if she had chosen not to stay at my house I would have understood. I had accepted that my day would unfold in the way that would be best for us. (But I sure did have the good fortune to learn TONS about essential oils over 2 days! Wow!)
Do you ever feel like you are comfortable and confident with your non-mainstream life with your kids–until your life falls under someone else’s scrutiny? For the longest time I tried to live in a bubble so that I didn’t have to let anyone notice that our values and practices are different from theirs. I lacked the personal integrity to really stand behind my decisions, preferring to blend in rather than risk having to defend myself.
How can you get comfortable with your normal, no matter how different it is from mainstream living?
- Never apologize for being happy. That other people choose to live in angst and frustration is their business. Do not hide your joy because it might be the first glimpse into conscious living that someone else has ever had.
- Live in the moment, not in the future. You can’t know what will happen next so just enjoy what you have.
- Be clear on your values and live them every moment. That others are not connected to their own integrity does not have to push you out of yours.
- Like attracts like. The more you confidently display your joy and love, the more you will bring people to your life who are living at the same vibration as you and your family.